Men
who are on good terms with their wife’s parents are more likely to enjoy a
long-lasting marriage.
You
are a grown up woman; it is perfectly possible to stand up for yourself while
being polite and civil to your in-laws.
You are not obligated to explain anything to anyone, except your
husband, when issues arise.
As
a woman or man, when you married, you also became part of another family with
its own set of expectations, but you need to recognize and respect these within
limits.
It
does not require that you submerge all your own feelings, desires, preferences,
and needs in the service of doing things their way. It doesn’t mean you must
permit them to disrespect, control, or manipulate you for their own selfish
ends.
It
doesn’t entail obeying all their parental requests or requirements which, in
some instances with some in-laws, may get pretty crazy.
As
we all know, in every marriage in-laws are the supporters, provided that the
wife is obedient and respectful, but in another way round they can be the
opposite.
They
play a crucial role in marriage, be it on the man’s side or the woman, but it
is more important on the side of the man, if they both are living together.
One
very important secret that married women should know is getting closer to your
in-laws and sister-in-law; they support your marriage and lay a strong
foundation in your marital house.
One
can be a cruel and intolerant mother-in-law, but as a married woman, it’s
always a duty to give in to your in-laws, no matter how difficult or
complicated they are.
Taking
a good example from a neighbour who stays with her in-laws, she always tries to
please her mother in-law; but there is no way the in-law will appreciate her,
as all she do is not appreciated, and she will start with small but stinging
comments.
She
said it progressed to open contempt, but every time she would get angry to a
point wanting to hit her in-law, she would remind herself that she is the
mother of her husband; then she will ignore her.
Looking
back, she said, her mother-in-law did not like her right from the beginning,
but for the fact that the man loves her, that unconditionally pushed her to the
marriage.
Sometimes
one may wonder why many mothers-in-law are usually at loggerheads with their
daughters-in-law.
But
just like I said earlier, this is one thing that women should avoid because it
brings hatred and enmity between wives and their mother in-law.
Therefore,
to all married women and those who wish to get married sooner or later, take
your in-laws as your own parents; because they are the developers of every
marriage, and hence the in-law relationship that is lacking means that marriage
is always in trouble.
In-laws
play a role in every marriage, and every advice from them is a blessing to both
spouses.
Tighten
up that relationship with your in-laws, if things are going fine, or start
building that relationship, because it is never too late to start all over
again.
